I'm going through old boxes of stuff when I found a bunch of hand made items that had the old name on them, made by my grandmother. I'm used to the annoyance of this, so I'm sorting and tossing the ones with the old name and keeping the ones that have no name on them. I pick up one I really like and grimace at the tag attached to it... then see that the tag says Heather on it. Tears of joy began pouring down my face. Not just at knowing that my grandmother wrote it there and all that implies, but the sheer relief of seeing MY name rather than the name that oppressed me for so long.
Names and pronouns have a profound effect on trans folk. Go find a trans folk you love and give them a huge hug and use their real name when you tell them you love them. =)
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